My Thoughts Count (Powerful thinking, Affirmations, Personal power)

While I was sort of rushing to get us out the door for school, she was on the floor putting her socks on and happily singing ‘I Gotta Feeling’ by the Black Eyed Peas…

Her – “Tonight’s going to be a good night. Tonight’s going to be a good night. Tonight’s going to be a good night…”

She stopped and looked up at me

Her – “If I keep saying it over and over, it will be!”

Surprised by her awareness I asked

Me – “It will?”

Her – “Yeah! And it already is a great day!”

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Six Dreaded Words (Health, Humor)

At a Trader Joe’s…

Her – “I want to be a vegedarian.”

Me – “A vegetarian?”

Her – “Yeah, a vegedarian.”

Surprised. A large portion of our diet is live, organic fruits and veggies, but she loves her turkey, chicken and some fish

Me – “Well…I think we should research it a bit together. Nog everyone does well as a vegetarian.”

This was going on as I looked for chicken breasts.

On the way to the car…

Her – “I really want to be a vegetarian.”

Me – “Why?”

Her – “No reason. I just want to.”

Me – “I’m afraid I’ll run out of things to feed you.”

Her – “You can give me salad, tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers, and ice cream!”

Okay, now she’s talking more sense. Does Ben and Jerry’s make a free range chicken flavor?

Forgetting About the Love (Consciousness, Open discussions, Love, Personal responsibility, Resolving conflict)

Yesterday, on the ride home from school, my girl asked for her lunch-bag. She then pulled out a note from her teachers about her punching someone in the arm.

It’s not the first time she has hit. In the fall of last year, she slapped someone who teased her. At that time, I reminded my girl that there are higher ways to solve a problem, but I also affirmed her need and right to stand up for herself. In fact, I replied to the school that I had reviewed how to handle situations without hitting, but that I was “proud of her for not taking any crap from a boy.” Her teachers did not respond.

In this recent case, after reminding her about not hitting, I calmly asked about the incident.

Best as I could understand, girl had run outside losing her place in the bathroom line but then rushed back to cut to the front. Isabella raced to the front but ended up being blocked at the door by the other girl who had beaten her. This angered Isabella, and she gave her a non-injuring punch in the arm. The other girl ran off crying, her feelings hurt. My daughter, rightly so, was called on her behavior.

I affirmed her right to take care of herself but then asked how else she could have handled it.

Asking a teacher for help
Explaining that the other girl had lost her place according to class rules
Coming from understanding that her friend may have needed the bathroom urgently and allowing her

It all, of course, required communication and remaining level-headed instead of reacting, something few human beings have completely mastered.

Me – “You just reacted. You needed to communicate.”

Her – “Yeah, I didn’t do that.”

She was seeing the situation now from a higher, more aware perspective.

Her – “I just forgot about the happiness inside of me.”

Because I wasn’t harshly condemning her, we were connected, and she was finding her way back home to her heart and inner sense of right and wrong.”

Me – “Well, we all do that, at times.”

Her – “I forgot about the love inside of me.”

Me – “We all forget about the happiness and love inside ourselves, at times, and we react. Forgive yourself, okay?”

Her – “Okay.”

Me – “Now, how do you think you can make it right? How can you make it right with your friend?”

She mentioned apologizing, but spring break was starting, and it would have to wait.

Her – “I could say I’m sorry to her in my heart.”

Me – “That’s a great idea. Why don’t you do that?”

Then the back of the car went silent as she spoke to her friend within and sent it through the ethers.

I was satisfied. Besides the fact that a 6yr-old’s brain is still far from full development in terms of regulating emotions, our discussion reinforced many things for her.

And, I have to say her words about forgetting about the happiness and love inside of me say it all, for all of us.

‘The Trying Girl’ (Persistence, Boldness, Power thinking)

Though she has always been a determined girl in her own right, I’ve complemented that by insisting that she persist and try diligently to figure things out on her own.

Now, she calls herself the ‘trying girl‘ because she doesn’t give up easily. If she is tempted to, which happens with difficult tasks, a reminder about her nickname will often get her will back into focus. Now, she is turning it on me…

Today in the car…

Me – “By the way, I think (a woman she knew I am interested in) is too young. I just found out her age, and she is younger than I thought.”

Her – “Aww… but I really wanted you to have her.”

Me – “Well, what if I’m too old for her?”

Her – “Then you’re too old.”

Pause

Her – “But try.”

Me – “Try?”

Her – “Yeah.”

We shall see. I had pretty much closed the case until she had to use my own advice on me. But at the very least I am pleased that the girl I do have values persistence and boldness.

Always Blooming (Love, Self-image)

At school pick-up, walking back to the car…

Me – “How did you get more beautiful again? You woke up this morning more beautiful than yesterday. Now I pick you up and you’re more beautiful than when I dropped you off!”

I could see her smiling a little, feeling loved. We climbed into the car…

Me – “You’re like a flower. A flower is at first a bud but then opens up and shares its beauty. Same with you. Every day you grow and open up more and share more of the beauty that is in you.”

Her – “At night, while I’m sleeping, I’m a bud. But then I wake up and I’m I’m full!”

Me – “That’s right.”

And, indeed, every morning she wakes up and blesses me with her happy and colorful spirit. I look forward to seeing how she blossoms in the coming year.