There are some times, of course, where I just insist on her doing something that I know is for her highest good. However, it feels best for both of us when she understands the reason and makes the choice herself.
Today, we had such a moment. We were heading out to play some tennis, and I paused to brush my teeth. She had had a little ice cream and lunch and needed to, as well. The impulse to tell her to brush arose, but I let it drift on, choosing, instead, to see what she’d do. My only hopeful bait was commentary on my own reason for delaying going outside…
Me – “I just ate so I need to brush.”
She waited, tennis racket in hand, and watched me for a while.
Her – “Should I?”
Me – “That’s up to you – if you want strong, healthy teeth.”
Her – “I do.”
And, she brushed. It’s wonderful when it can work like this.